The Thing About Grief

I know I have been MIA lately on here. I still have some things to write about just takes me a while to get my thoughts together. We are still here and trying to figure out where we belong and how to take care of everything that Martin did without us even knowing.

We had a horrible week last week and at some point, I hope to be able to write about it. But this is all I have for now.

Do you ever feel like, how is the world still going on with your special person or people? It’s like people are still having babies that Martin will never meet and places he will never go. It just is so strange to me. But I have said it before and I will say it again, I was just so far into denial. But I guess that, is what I needed to be so that it didn’t look like I had given up on him.

I saw this on FB and thought it was worth sharing and maybe it can help someone else?

THE THING ABOUT GRIEF

Grief is not just dealing with the loss of love, it’s the abandonment.

It’s the realization… Everyone will leave me.

It’s the ongoing fear of investing your heart and soul, into all-consuming love,

lest that person leave you too.

Grief is not just the loss of love, it’s the terror of loving again,

just in case.

It’s the walls built to protect the heart,

walls which unknowingly starve that very heart you protect,

of the one thing it needs, love.

But here’s the thing…

love does not fade, it can’t be lost.

It remains.

Even when the person you had that love for is no more.

You love them still. You always will.

And here’s another thing…

they didn’t leave you, not really.

You know this to be true.

Listen, feel, watch, they are with you now.

They will be with you always.

Grief may feel like the dying of the soul while the body still lives,

but you are alive my friend.

And they are not, and they do not want you to be with them yet.

They very much want you to live.

Do not fear the grief you feel, it’s just love roaring around in pain.

It’s just love, with nowhere to go.

So give it somewhere to go.

Donna Ashworth Words From ‘I Wish I Knew’

That day in Dresden…